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Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson Divorce may be happening more and more these days, but there’s still something about it that shocks us when we hear that close friends are separating; and we say to ourselves: “I wish there was something I could do.” It’s very easy for us to be so overwhelmed by our friends’ problems that we simply ignore them. We don’t know what to say, so we say nothing, and we leave these lonely people to their private pain. Or else we join the chorus of people who offer simplistic solutions and fail to address the pain. “It never was meant to be,” some may say. Or: “You’ll be better off without him.” And yet, survey after survey confirms the fact that couples in crisis will hint of their pain to friends long before seeking professional help. And when friends do come alongside the troubled couple, sometimes a marriage could be saved. A man can meet with another man for lunch and talk about his marriage, and offer encouragement and support during the ha...

By Dr James Dobson Take all the problems associated with parenting and multiply them by two. Now you have some idea of what I call the single-parent blues : Having twice the problems, with half the resources to deal with them. How do the blues get started? Often, it’s with the single parents themselves. Unwittingly, those parents will pass on their own stress points to their kids. Take, for example, the issue of self-esteem . Children in single-parent homes are more likely to fight and compete with one another for love and acceptance. Why? Because the parent is struggling with these very feelings themselves and has only a limited amount to share with the children. Bitterness is another transferable commodity. If a parent feels resentment over the death of a spouse or has anger against a departing husband or wife, the children will often display feelings of anger and bitterness that they can’t explain. A harsh attitude by the remaining parent can deeply wound children who ma...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier When kids start to get insolent with their parents, it’s almost always a symptom of a greater problem in the relationship. Kids don’t simply become defiant and disrespectful overnight. They usually learn that behaviour through watching how the rest of the family interact with one another. When your child starts to talk back, ask yourself, “Am I modelling a caring and kind attitude when I talk to my spouse and kids?” If the answer is no, then you can begin to see the problem. And the solution is to start modelling the kind of respectful behaviour you’d like to see in your children . Kids tend to mimic what they see in their parents. If you want to raise kind and considerate kids, become a kind and considerate parent. From TODAY, Voices - Monday, 22-March-2010 ----- Blogged with the Flock Browser Related articles by Zemanta Tips to be a Better Mother (teabreak.pk) Schools should take more bad parents to court, says minister (gua...

By Dr James Dobson Marguerite and Willard Beecher, writing many years ago, offered two insightful recommendations to parents. They said first, that a parent needs to gain his or her freedom from the child, so that the child can obtain his or her freedom from the parent. Second, they said that a parent should do nothing for a child that the child can profit from doing himself or herself. Now, there's great wisdom in those words. A newborn is, of course, completely helpless. But about 20 years later, he or she should have developed the skills and the self-discipline necessary for independent adult living. In other words, during the short course of childhood, an individual should progress from complete dependency to independency , from irresponsibility to responsibility. It comes by preparing the child day by day for the eventual moment of release. The Beechers said that parents who continue their servitude as the child matures may be handicapping him or her for life. So a primary o...