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By Dr James Dobson There are times in every family when rules and restrictions must be imposed, even during the teen years . But let me make this point emphatically: Rules without relationship lead to rebellion. Family psychologist and author Dr Kevin Leman tells of the time he had to leave on a trip just a day or two before Valentine’s Day. His wife Sandy remarked over the phone that their teenage daughter had received a letter of acceptance from the university she wanted to attend. Dr Leman decided that this event was worth some extra attention. He called a florist and ordered a dozen pink sweetheart roses for his daughter. The next evening when he called home, his daughter got on the phone to thank him from the bottom of her heart. She said: “When I saw the delivery man at the door, I knew the flowers had to be for Mum, on Valentine’s Day. But then I saw my own name on them and thought, my goodness, they must be from my boyfriend. But, Daddy, they were from you. And that’...

This is one short article that I would say is most striking to me - the truth of it cannot be overvalued, and more so, underestimated. Our kids are learning more from what we do, either separately or together, than from what we say. The learning process is complicated even more when we send mixed signals, saying one thing, and doing another. May we be worthy parents, in words and in deed. (What do you know, today is my father's birthday, and he is now 85 years old) Read on... ----- By Dr James Dobson It has been said that values are not taught to children – they’re caught by them. Children absorb what their mothers and fathers believe by watching them in everyday situations. Dr Kevin Leman relates the story of Mr Manuel Pacheco, who was the first Hispanic to be appointed president of the University of Arizona . One of 12 children, Mr Pacheco grew up in extreme poverty on a small farm in New Mexico that his father had managed to purchase. Said Mr Pacheco: “We didn’t ...