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Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson According to Dr Burton White at Harvard University , there are six factors that contribute to the intellectual capacity of a child, three of which were discussed in yesterday’s column. Now for the rest of the list ... It was shown that children given free access to the living rooms of their homes progressed much faster than those whose movements were restricted. Next, the nuclear family is the most important educational delivery system. If we’re going to produce capable, happy children, it will be by strengthening family units and by improving the interactions that occur within them. Finally, the best parents were those who excelled at three key functions: They were superb designers and organisers of their children’s environments; they permitted their children to interrupt them for brief 30-second episodes during which personal comfort and information were exchanged; and lastly, they were firm disciplinarians, while simultaneously show...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier At the age of 19, many children head off to university , and parents tend to think their job is done. But just because your kids are older doesn’t mean they don’t need a parent anymore. You’ll always be mum and dad — it’s just your role that has changed. For 19 years you’ve disciplined and directed your kids, but now it’s time to become their adviser and friend. Trying to control them after they’re grown will only push them away. But all children need comfort, advice and encouragement — even if they are grown up. Give your kids the freedom to become their own people. It takes a lot of restraint to allow your children to make their own decisions, but it’s the only way that they’ll learn true independence. Be their friend, and be there when they need you, but beyond that, learn to let go. From TODAY, Voices - Wednesday, 24-March-2010 ----- Blogged with the Flock Browser Related articles by Zemanta Common Mistakes in Parenting (...

Image by Goodimages via Flickr By Dr James Dobson Everybody understands that teenagers are itching to get out on their own; not have parents telling them what to do anymore. But this yearning for control actually starts much earlier. It's an inevitable part of growing-up. I remember one mother of a little four year old girl who was demanding her own way. So the mother said: "Now Jenny, you're just going to have to obey me. I have the responsibility to lead you." Well, little Jenny then said: "How long does it have to be that way?" Well, that illustrates my point. Already at the age of four, this child was yearning for a day of freedom. The task for us as parents is to hang onto the reins of authority in the early days. And then gradually ground independence as maturity arrives. Power granted too early produces childhood folly, but power granted too late brings rebellion. It is a wise parent, indeed, who can let go little by little as the growing child is...

Image by carf via Flickr By Dr James Dobson Do you want to see what kind of men and women your children will grow up to be? Take a look in the mirror. A wise man once said: "The footsteps a child follows are often those that the father thought he covered up." How true that is. There are facts we can pass on to our children and skills we can teach; but how our children really learn is by watching us and observing our every move; by absorbing what we do and who we are. Someone once said: "Values are not taught to kids; they're caught by them." They're picked up routinely through the subtle influences of simply being together through the day. A poem by Herbert Parker sums it up best. He said: "To get his goodnight kiss he stood beside my chair one night, and raised an eager face to me, a face with love alight. And as I gathered in my arms the son God gave to me, I thanked the lad for being good and hoped he'd always be. " His little arms crep...

By Dr James Dobson Imagine the shock one single mum felt when she walked into her daughter's day care facility and found her wearing her soiled underwear on top of her head, a punishment the provider imposed when the child had an "accident". We've all heard horror stories of day-care facilities that abuse or neglect children when parents are not watching. This unnerves every loving parent who must rely on others to care for their children during the day. If you're one of them, you must learn to evaluate the people you entrust your most precious possession to five days a week. You can begin by checking to see what your country's licencing laws are and what criteria a caregiver must meet. Before you leave your little one, you should observe the caregiver interacting with children for a minimum of two hours. Most importantly, drop in unannounced to check what the care is like when you're not around. And keep your ears open to what your child says. There ...