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Are we talking about anger management here? ----- SINGAPORE - Eight people, all who have trouble controlling their temper, are attending an anger management class. A counsellor is conducting the session. In a typical setting, this would not seem out of place. At the Institute of Mental Health 's (IMH) Child Guidance Clinic (CGC), however, such sessions are attended by children aged seven to 12 years old. In spite of their young age, all of them have anger issues that are serious enough to warrant special attention. There are no exact figures on children and teenagers in Singapore with anger issues. Dr Ong Say How, Consultant and Deputy Chief at IMH's Department of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry , explained that this is because "anger" is not considered a clinical diagnosis. At the CGC, children and teens with such problems are usually referred to anger management groups, which run for about eight sessions. Each year, about 16 youth attend these sessions...

From Focus on the Family Some children are just born clingy. No matter where mom is, they have to be right there by her side, usually hanging on for dear life. Over time it can get pretty frustrating – especially if they show no signs of letting up. Children who cling tend to be more shy and insecure. When they get into a new situation or feel cranky, clinging is their way of communicating that they’re uncomfortable. The worst thing you can do is to get frustrated and pry them away. Instead, take a few minutes to hug and reassure them and then talk to them about what they’re feeling. Tell them they can stay close but they can’t cling. You might promise a special time together later if they’ll let you get your work done. Above all, don’t worry. “Clinginess” is a phase that almost always passes in time. From TODAY, Voices - Friday, 03-Sep-2010 ----- Related articles by Zemanta Living with children: The clingy phase (seattletimes.nwsource.com) Some parents analyze too...

Image by Collaborative Law Institute of Texas via Flickr By Dr Bill Maier Watching your child go through a divorce can often feel worse than getting one yourself. Any parent who has had to help a child suffer through a divorce knows how devastating it can be for everyone involved. It’s easy to point fingers and pass judgment, but that’s not what your child needs most. During these times, the best you can do is to first make sure your own emotions are in check. Then, carefully choose your words and actions. Your job is to help diffuse anger and frustration, and to bring a healthy perspective. Blaming only causes more resentment, when forgiveness is the only road to true healing. Sometimes, young children are involved, and someone needs to be there for them, helping them navigate the feelings of pain and resentment they may be experiencing. A clear head and a helping hand is what people most need during tough times. And you may be the only one who can offer that. From TOD...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier It’s hard to watch your kids go through tough times, but struggle is an important part of growing up. We’re all tempted to shelter our kids from grief and heartache, but life isn’t always easy, so they need to learn how to deal honestly with emotions — both good and bad . When sad times come, don’t make the mistake of trying to shield kids from the pain. And don’t distract them from their feelings by pretending nothing is wrong, or by bribing them into being happy. Sometimes they need to grieve; because that’s the only way they will learn to process their emotions properly. Kids need to learn that there’s a right and a wrong way to be sad. Grief is painful, but it’s not an excuse to get angry, or to lash out at others. It’s something everyone has to go through, and good times are always just around the corner. From TODAY, Voices - Thursday, 25-March-2010 ----- Blogged with the Flock Browser Related articles by Zemanta The grievi...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson Do you ever feel like you just don't love your spouse anymore? The fact is, love is not dependent on our feelings and emotions . The fact is feelings come and go. None of us always feels intensely romantic and loving toward our spouse. In a genuine love relationship, there are times of closeness and caring, but there are also times of distance and disinterest. And worst of all, there are times of apathy when a couple feels nothing at all. Emotions are very unstable. And you can't build anything so permanent on something so shaky. The key to a lifelong love is found in a commitment of the will, which is like the engine on a train. It'll keep you moving down the right track. Once you make up your mind to have a successful marriage , no matter what, you'll no longer be shaken by the ebb and flow of emotions. Which end of the train is pulling your marital relationship? It's a question worth pondering. From TODAY, Voices – Monday,...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson If you want to know whether or not you're really in love, give it the test of time. Infatuation is the name we give to that first bright burst of attraction between two people. It sets our pulses racing and makes us think of clouds and fireworks , as well as stories that end in "happily ever after". There's no doubt infatuation looks and feels very much like love; the only problem is, it doesn't last. It's a quick, emotional high, with no commitment behind it. And when it runs its course, we find ourselves back where we started, with little or nothing to show for the experience. How then can we distinguish real love from temporary attraction? If the feeling is unreliable, how can we measure the commitment of the will? There's only one answer: It takes time. The best advice I can offer a couple contemplating marriage, or any other important issue, is make no important life-shaping decisions quickly or impulsively. Me...

By Dr Bill Maier Would you be able to tell if your child was struggling with depression or other dangerous emotions ? One mother emailed me about her daughter’s unusual behavior. Her husband had taken a job out of town, and wasn’t spending as much time with the family , causing their eleven year old daughter to begin acting out. The girl was threatening to run away, even to kill herself! Obviously, this girl was struggling with her father’s absence, but there were other issues at work as well. It’s never normal for an eleven year old to threaten suicide , even in a fit of anger. I encouraged the mother to get professional help – and get it fast! Kids aren’t equipped to deal with difficult life issues the way that adults are, and it’s our job to watch for signs of emotional problems. If your child shows signs of out-of-control anger or depression, don’t take it lightly. From TODAY, Voices – Monday, 29-Jun-2009 Related articles by Zemanta Moving May Up Adolescent ...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson One of the unfortunate characteristics of life in the modern world is the high level of anxiety so many people experience. Most of us have moments when we feel some kind of emotional discomfort. But for many, gripping fears and uneasiness are everyday companions. This anxiety may manifest itself in the form of dizziness , headaches , nausea , stomach cramps , an inability to concentrate, and persistent conflict with others. For those who find themselves in this situation, let me offer some common-sense suggestions that may help. First, we must take care of our physical being. We need adequate sleep and make the time to exercise and relax because there is a connection between mind and body. Second, we should dig for insight. It is widely believed that anxieties such as agoraphobia are the by-products of repressed feelings. We must learn to deal with them. If we're bitter over a wrong, we must find a way to forgive. If we're afraid of ou...

By Dr James Dobson We've often heard the old suggestion that we should count to 10 when we get angry. It can be very valuable to have a cooling-off period before acting on those feelings. The reason for waiting is that anger is not only emotional , it's biochemical as well. The body is equipped with an automatic defence system called the " fight or flight " mechanism, which prepares the entire organism for action. When we're upset or frightened, adrenaline is pumped into the blood stream , setting off a whole series of physiological responses within the body. In a matter of seconds, the individual is transformed from being calm to a state of alarmed reaction. All of these biochemical responses are involuntary. What isn't involuntary however, is our response to these sudden changes. We can choose to hold our tongue; to remove ourselves from the provocative situation, particularly when we're dealing with children who anger us. We can control the impulse to...