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Image by fikirbaz via Flickr By Dr Bill Maier What would happen if you started a new career with no training? You’d probably have a hard time doing your job. In the same way, you can’t expect a new father to naturally know how to raise a family without a little training. Most of us get that training by watching our own fathers, seeing how they react to certain situations, and taking notes as they care for their children . But what happens to a boy who grows up without a father? How does he know what to do? In many cases, he doesn’t. I recently received a tragic letter from a young man in that very situation. He grew up fatherless, and now found himself unequipped to deal with his kids. The best thing a new father can do in this situation is to find a mentor who can give advice and encouragement when problems arise. Every job takes a little training — especially fatherhood. From TODAY, Voices - Wednesday, 07-April-2010 ----- Blogged with the Flock Browser Related artic...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson In case you haven't noticed , parenthood is a very guilt-producing endeavor, even for the dedicated professional. Since there's no such creature as a perfect parent, we subject ourselves to a constant cross-examination in the courtroom of parental acceptability. Round and round go the self-doubts and recriminations, and guilt becomes a constant companion. The best way to handle guilt is to face it squarely, using it as a source of motivation for change where warranted. I would suggest that parents sit down together and discuss their feelings. Write down your most troubling parental shortcomings. Then ask yourselves: "Is my guilt valid? Can I do anything about it?" Remember that none of us can be perfect parents. We get tired and frustrated, and disappointed and irritable, and it can affect the way we approach those little ones around our feet. Fortunately, we are permitted to make many mistakes through the years, provided the o...

By Dr James Dobson We've often heard the old suggestion that we should count to 10 when we get angry. It can be very valuable to have a cooling-off period before acting on those feelings. The reason for waiting is that anger is not only emotional , it's biochemical as well. The body is equipped with an automatic defence system called the " fight or flight " mechanism, which prepares the entire organism for action. When we're upset or frightened, adrenaline is pumped into the blood stream , setting off a whole series of physiological responses within the body. In a matter of seconds, the individual is transformed from being calm to a state of alarmed reaction. All of these biochemical responses are involuntary. What isn't involuntary however, is our response to these sudden changes. We can choose to hold our tongue; to remove ourselves from the provocative situation, particularly when we're dealing with children who anger us. We can control the impulse to...