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By Dr Bill Maier At what age do you plan to let your teenagers start dating? Better decide now, before your children get older. In the past, most parents said 16 was a proper age, but today, a lot of families are questioning whether that is a good idea. You have to wonder what good can come of two hormonally-charged teenagers pairing off and spending hours together with no supervision. It is a formula for trouble. Many parents now encourage their teens to group date. It is a great way for young adults to develop healthy relationships without the unhealthy temptation. Other parents allow their children to date, but not until the age of 18, and even then in moderation. However you feel about your kids’ dating habits, it’s important to discuss it with them at an early age. Make sure they understand your rules – and your reasoning behind those rules. From TODAY, Voices - Tuesday, 18-May-2010 ----- Related articles by Zemanta The Five Love Languages of Teenagers - Recomme...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson When you want to offer advice to a person about a flaw or a shortcoming in his or her character, it’s best to do it the way porcupines make love: Very, very carefully. It’s often difficult to open the eyes of friends or relatives to their own blind spots. It’s even more risky to discuss a mistake in the way parenting responsibilities are being handled. You’re liable to get your ears pinned back, even when your motives are honourable and you have the other person’s interest at heart. Let me offer a suggestion that may be helpful in handling this delicate assignment. The right to criticise must be earned, even if the advice is constructive and desperately needed. Before you’re entitled to meddle with another person’s self-esteem, you must first demonstrate your respect for him as a person. You have to invest some time and effort in his life in an atmosphere of love and kindness, and human warmth. When a relationship of confidence has been c...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson Do you ever feel like you just don't love your spouse anymore? The fact is, love is not dependent on our feelings and emotions . The fact is feelings come and go. None of us always feels intensely romantic and loving toward our spouse. In a genuine love relationship, there are times of closeness and caring, but there are also times of distance and disinterest. And worst of all, there are times of apathy when a couple feels nothing at all. Emotions are very unstable. And you can't build anything so permanent on something so shaky. The key to a lifelong love is found in a commitment of the will, which is like the engine on a train. It'll keep you moving down the right track. Once you make up your mind to have a successful marriage , no matter what, you'll no longer be shaken by the ebb and flow of emotions. Which end of the train is pulling your marital relationship? It's a question worth pondering. From TODAY, Voices – Monday,...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson If you want to know whether or not you're really in love, give it the test of time. Infatuation is the name we give to that first bright burst of attraction between two people. It sets our pulses racing and makes us think of clouds and fireworks , as well as stories that end in "happily ever after". There's no doubt infatuation looks and feels very much like love; the only problem is, it doesn't last. It's a quick, emotional high, with no commitment behind it. And when it runs its course, we find ourselves back where we started, with little or nothing to show for the experience. How then can we distinguish real love from temporary attraction? If the feeling is unreliable, how can we measure the commitment of the will? There's only one answer: It takes time. The best advice I can offer a couple contemplating marriage, or any other important issue, is make no important life-shaping decisions quickly or impulsively. Me...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson If you want to put some new life in your marriage , try thinking like a teenager again. We all remember, fondly or otherwise, the craziness of our dating days – the coy attitudes, the flirting, the chase after the prize. But as we moved into marriage, most of us felt we should leave the game-playing behind. But we may not have changed as much as we'd like to think. The truth is that our romantic relationships will always bear some characteristics of adolescent sexuality. Grown-ups still love the thrill of the chase, the lure of the unattainable, the excitement of the new and the boredom with the old. The immature impulses are controlled and minimised in a committed relationship , but they never fully disappear. And this is the key for keeping life in our marriages. If things seem stale between you and your spouse, maybe you should remember some old tricks, repeating some of the happy moments that brought you together. Maybe it's time for...