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Image by Collaborative Law Institute of Texas via Flickr By Dr Bill Maier Watching your child go through a divorce can often feel worse than getting one yourself. Any parent who has had to help a child suffer through a divorce knows how devastating it can be for everyone involved. It’s easy to point fingers and pass judgment, but that’s not what your child needs most. During these times, the best you can do is to first make sure your own emotions are in check. Then, carefully choose your words and actions. Your job is to help diffuse anger and frustration, and to bring a healthy perspective. Blaming only causes more resentment, when forgiveness is the only road to true healing. Sometimes, young children are involved, and someone needs to be there for them, helping them navigate the feelings of pain and resentment they may be experiencing. A clear head and a helping hand is what people most need during tough times. And you may be the only one who can offer that. From TOD...

Image by Collaborative Law Institute of Texas via Flickr By Dr Bill Maier No one goes through a divorce unscathed – especially the children . All children struggle to understand it when their parents can’t get along, no matter what their age. When parents fight or separate, children naturally blame themselves. They wonder if there’s something they’ve done to cause the problems, or if there’s anything they should have done to fix it. That’s why it’s critical to let kids know that a divorce is not their fault. And that it’s a painful process for everyone. By calling a divorce “amicable”, you’re saying to your child “we could stay together; we just don’t want to.” It’s not only insensitive, it’s misleading. What they need to hear is that you’ve done everything you could do to save the marriage , and that you and your spouse are solely to blame for the breakup. Only then can you begin helping your children heal the pain . From TODAY, Voices - Thursday, 22-April-2010 ----- Relat...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson Divorce carries lifelong negative implications for children . Anything that interferes with the vital relationship with either parent can have lasting consequences for the child. For example, one landmark study revealed that 90 per cent of children from divorced homes suffered from an acute sense of shock when the separation occurred, including profound grieving and irrational fears. Some 50 per cent reported feeling rejected and abandoned, and half of the fathers never came to see their children three years after the divorce . One-third feared abandonment by the remaining parent, and 66 per cent experienced yearning for the absent parent, with an intensity that researchers described as overwhelming. Most significantly, 37 per cent of the children were even more unhappy and dissatisfied five years after the divorce than they had been after 18 months. It is certainly what I think about with righteous indignation when I see infidelity and marital ...