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Image by Graela via Flickr By Dr James Dobson Sometimes being a good parent requires the skills of a detective, decoding the messages behind your child ’s actions. The most successful parents have the skill to see through the eyes of their child. Unless we master this, we may react in a harmful way. For example, when a two-year-old screams and cries at bedtime, one must find out what he’s communicating. If he is genuinely frightened by the dark, the appropriate response should be different than if he is merely protesting about having to go to bed. A child’s defiant actions may be asking the question , “Are you in charge or am I?” Or your child’s antagonism may be saying, “I feel unloved now that I’m stuck with that screaming baby brother – Mum used to care for us; now nobody wants me – I hate everybody.” Perhaps the toughest task in parenthood is to recognise the difference between these two distinct motives. That’s why raising children is such a lofty skill that can never be r...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier Children don’t always know how to deal with a bully , and parents don’t always know what to say to them. Mums tend to think that walking away is the best approach, while Dad might tell junior to fight back. But neither approach is very helpful to a child who’s being picked on by a kid twice his size. The best approach is a proactive one. Begin by contacting the school and making sure they’re aware of the problem. Ask them to have someone monitor the playground and try to catch the bully in the act. Chances are he’s terrorising a number of children , not just your child. Then, encourage your son or daughter to get involved in several school clubs or groups. Bullies tend to target those who have few friends, and the more children they hang out with, the less chance they’ll have of being harassed. From TODAY, Voices - Tuesday, 20-April-2010 ----- Related articles by Zemanta When the Parents of Bullied School Kids Fail Their Children (...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier When kids start to get insolent with their parents, it’s almost always a symptom of a greater problem in the relationship. Kids don’t simply become defiant and disrespectful overnight. They usually learn that behaviour through watching how the rest of the family interact with one another. When your child starts to talk back, ask yourself, “Am I modelling a caring and kind attitude when I talk to my spouse and kids?” If the answer is no, then you can begin to see the problem. And the solution is to start modelling the kind of respectful behaviour you’d like to see in your children . Kids tend to mimic what they see in their parents. If you want to raise kind and considerate kids, become a kind and considerate parent. From TODAY, Voices - Monday, 22-March-2010 ----- Blogged with the Flock Browser Related articles by Zemanta Tips to be a Better Mother (teabreak.pk) Schools should take more bad parents to court, says minister (gua...

Image by Army.mil via Flickr By Dr Bill Maier One of the hardest parts about setting limits with your kids is figuring out what those limits should be. And it's important that you and your spouse agree. The worst thing you can do is to show a divided front when it comes to discipline. Be sure you've worked out a clear plan of action with your spouse before laying down the rules to your children. Sometimes it helps to write it out, so that there's no confusion later. Never argue about your rules in front of the kids. It undermines the very thing you're trying to achieve — letting them know that your rules have no wiggle room. Most importantly, don't let yourself be ambushed by kids who try to play one parent against the other. Once the rules have been set, make sure they're enforced by both you and your spouse. From TODAY, Voices – Monday, 24-Aug-2009 Related articles by Zemanta Christian couples share an e-mail address to resist temptation (timesunion.com) ...

Image via Wikipedia From Dr James Dobson We've spoken on several occasions about parents who couldn't care less about their children but today I want to address those at the other end of the continuum, referring to mothers and fathers for whom the kids are the only important thing in life. They can't spare the time for recreational, romantic or restful activities because to do so would make them feel guilty. Now, I don't question the motives behind this commitment to children but super- parenting can cause several serious problems. First, it may lead in some cases to overprotection , permissiveness and prolonged dependency. Second, it can lead to a state of emotional and physical exhaustion known as parental burnout . Then the entire family suffers, particularly the children for whom the effort was invested in the first place. Third, super-parenting can also be destructive to a marriage, especially when only one parent is so inclined. Moderation is the key to a healt...