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On some points, I agree with the writer… two becoming one doesn't necessarily mean enslaving or dominating or dissolving the other person completely; the unity is simply more than just what we perceive. There is more to a person than what we see or hear. The unspoken and unheard, the unuttered and unannounced, the hushed… when becoming one means being one in thought, but not in the execution, one in mind, but not in the action… one in emotion, but different in the presentation or display of affection… ----- btw: ON DIFFERENCES IN A RELATIONSHIP ANA OW MY HUSBAND cannot see the light – when it comes to the styles of furnishings and fixtures that I prefer for our new apartment, that is. D and I have been shopping for pendant lights over the past few weekends and the number of items that we both like are a dismal few. "Sorry, but we are not having a pseudo-baroque chandelier in our bedroom," was D's last word on the matter after a couple of minor spats. He did, however,...

From FOCUS ON THE FAMILY TODAY • Wednesday • June 11, 2008 By Dr James Dobson Imagine two boats drifting together on a choppy lake. A man sits in one of them and a woman in the other. They have every intention of crossing the lake together because they genuinely care about each other. But slowly, they begin to drift apart. Each catches different currents and gusts of wind that turn their little boats in opposite directions. Before they know it, one person is at the north end of the lake and the other bobs along at the south. They can hardly communicate without shouting from such a great distance. And by then, there are a number of children in a third boat, little bewildered children. This is a dramatic analogy to the plight of too many marriages today. Husbands and wives begin their journey side by side, with every intention of remaining together for a lifetime. But the pressures of everyday living turn them in their own directions and towards their own pursuits, and away from each oth...

From FOCUS ON THE FAMILY, Today, 05-Jun-2008 edition COURT YOUR SPOUSE By Dr Bill Maier How well do you build up your mate’s self-esteem? Drs Les and Leslie Parrott have written a great book called The Love List. In it, they outline some powerful ideas to make your spouse feel special. For instance, try looking for ways to praise your husband or wife. It doesn’t have to be a big deal, just a simple word of encouragement. Tell them, “You look really great today,” or “I really appreciate what a great Mum you are.” When you’re with friends, make it a point of bringing up one of your spouse’s good qualities. Say something like, “Kelly is an amazing cook. You should try her lasagna.” You’ll be surprised how many brownie points you score with a simple compliment. When you’re alone, don’t forget to tell your spouse how much you love them. All of us need to know that we’re loved and appreciated. Everyone likes to be courted, even if they’ve been married for 20 years.