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The Case for Letting Children Have Freedom

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English: Times Square (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) BY JANE E. BRODY Lenore Skenazy, a New York City mother of two, earned the nickname “America’s Worst Mom” after reporting in a newspaper column that she had allowed her younger son, then 9, to ride the subway alone. The criticism she endured, including a threat of arrest for child endangerment, intensified her desire to encourage parents to give their children the freedom they need to develop self-confidence and resilience. One result was the publication in 2009 of her book “ Free Range Kids : How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts With Worry).” A second results is the Free Range Kids Project and a 13-part TV series , “ World’s Worst Mom .” In it, Ms. Skenazy rescues children from parents’ overprotectiveness by guiding the children through a sequence of once-forbidden activities and showing the parents how well the children do. Parents who subscribe to Ms.Skenazy’s approach include Danielle and Alexander Meiti...

Parent-Child Journeys Present a Few Pitfalls

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"Under the horse chestnut tree", 1 print : drypoint and aquatint, color ; (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) There's a time to teach, to show, to model... and then a time to let go... ----- TOM BRADY The parent -child bond is fraught with emotional and physical trials every step of the way. But what happens to the parent nearing those final days of nurturing? Madeline Levine spent her career as a psychologist and a writer – and mother – with the belief that her job was to prepare her three sons to live independently and enthusiastically move into adulthood. But now that the youngest of her three sons is out of college, and the older two are doing just what she wanted for them all along, her reaction surprised her. “How odd that I should be blindsided by a sense of loss as my sons move fully into lives of their own,” she wrote in The Times . “Some part of me must have known that each move toward independence – from zipping a jacket to hanging out at the mall...

Parents, fret less and sleep more

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Cover of Parenting (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) Calliope Hummingbird / Stellula calliope - female feeding two chicks (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) While I am not agreeing to everything written in this article, there is much to learn from the facts of life, as presented here. I still teach my kids that it's not what they do, or what they achieve that makes them. They are who they are, no matter what.  Many kids raised in nice environments end up as rascals, criminals, and some kids raised in not nice environments end up being better, more educated. We do our job as parents, and that is where the thin line has to be drawn and adhered to. This article is more for parents, by the way. ----- BY PAMELA DRUCKERMAN I RECENTLY spent the afternoon with some Norwegians who are making a documentary about French child-rearing . Why would people in one of the world’s most successful countries care how anyone else raises kids? In Norway, “we have brats, child kings, and many of us ...