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Are we talking about anger management here? ----- SINGAPORE - Eight people, all who have trouble controlling their temper, are attending an anger management class. A counsellor is conducting the session. In a typical setting, this would not seem out of place. At the Institute of Mental Health 's (IMH) Child Guidance Clinic (CGC), however, such sessions are attended by children aged seven to 12 years old. In spite of their young age, all of them have anger issues that are serious enough to warrant special attention. There are no exact figures on children and teenagers in Singapore with anger issues. Dr Ong Say How, Consultant and Deputy Chief at IMH's Department of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry , explained that this is because "anger" is not considered a clinical diagnosis. At the CGC, children and teens with such problems are usually referred to anger management groups, which run for about eight sessions. Each year, about 16 youth attend these sessions...

Image by Collaborative Law Institute of Texas via Flickr By Dr Bill Maier Watching your child go through a divorce can often feel worse than getting one yourself. Any parent who has had to help a child suffer through a divorce knows how devastating it can be for everyone involved. It’s easy to point fingers and pass judgment, but that’s not what your child needs most. During these times, the best you can do is to first make sure your own emotions are in check. Then, carefully choose your words and actions. Your job is to help diffuse anger and frustration, and to bring a healthy perspective. Blaming only causes more resentment, when forgiveness is the only road to true healing. Sometimes, young children are involved, and someone needs to be there for them, helping them navigate the feelings of pain and resentment they may be experiencing. A clear head and a helping hand is what people most need during tough times. And you may be the only one who can offer that. From TOD...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier The most common error parents make when disciplining their kids is disciplining out of anger . Imagine a police officer who tried to keep people from speeding by simply getting angry at them. He could stand on the street corner and yell as they passed by, trying to convince them to slow down. He could even jump up and down and turn blue in the face with anger, but would anyone really listen? We pay attention to him because he has the authority to pass out tickets. That's how parenting is. If you want to change a child's behaviour, you do it through clear consequences, not through anger. You calmly explain the offence, and then enforce the punishment. It's the only effective method of raising disciplined kids. From TODAY, Voices – Wednesday, 01-Jul-2009 Related articles by Zemanta Struggle (crazyadventuresinparenting.com) Transforming Anger (timesunion.com) Startup Dad (teddziuba.com) Sound Off! How Did You Prepare for Parenth...

By Dr James Dobson We've often heard the old suggestion that we should count to 10 when we get angry. It can be very valuable to have a cooling-off period before acting on those feelings. The reason for waiting is that anger is not only emotional , it's biochemical as well. The body is equipped with an automatic defence system called the " fight or flight " mechanism, which prepares the entire organism for action. When we're upset or frightened, adrenaline is pumped into the blood stream , setting off a whole series of physiological responses within the body. In a matter of seconds, the individual is transformed from being calm to a state of alarmed reaction. All of these biochemical responses are involuntary. What isn't involuntary however, is our response to these sudden changes. We can choose to hold our tongue; to remove ourselves from the provocative situation, particularly when we're dealing with children who anger us. We can control the impulse to...

By Dr James Dobson What is the most common error made by parents in disciplining their children? I believe it is the inappropriate use of anger in attempting to manage children. Unfortunately, most adults rely primarily on their own irritation to make children cooperate. A teacher said: "I like being a professional educator , but I hate the daily task of teaching. My children are so unruly that I have to stay mad at them all the time just to control the classroom." How utterly frustrating that would be, and how ineffective. Disciplinary action influences behaviour. Anger does not. I am convinced that adult irritation actually creates disrespect in the minds of children. They can see that our frustration is caused by our inability to control the situation. We represent justice to them, and yet we are on the verge of tears as we shout empty threats and warnings. I am not recommending that parents and teachers conceal their legitimate emotions. My point merely is that anger of...