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By Dr James Dobson Imagine being depressed and miserable over the shape of your nose, or the texture of your skin or the colour of your hair. Dissatisfaction with one's body is an experience that most adolescents live with every day. If you were to ask a hundred teenagers what they're most unhappy about, 80 per cent of them would describe some minor physical imperfection with which they're stuck. They're either too tall or too short. Or they feel fat or too thin. Or that they hate the freckles on their nose. And most teenagers have heard about these perceived flaws from their peers – who often judge human worth strictly on the basis of physical attractiveness. At least a portion of the anger and frustration usually associated with adolescence can be traced to this vicious system of values that runs amok during the adolescent years. In my book Preparing for Adolescence , I recommend that parents begin to teach a different system of values in the period immedia...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson What can a mother do when she feels confused and frustrated about raising a son? Many women these days express a sense of anxiety about dealing with their own sons. Whether she’s single or married, there’s a feeling of not being equipped to meet the special challenges of teaching and training a young boy. A friend of mine, Mrs Jean Lush, has written a wonderful book on the subject called Mothers and Sons . I think many mothers will be encouraged to hear her advice. First, she says that mothers should realise that it’s normal for little boys to be difficult — even extremely difficult. Emerging masculinity can be a boisterous and destructive force. Mothers should learn to anticipate their son’s energy level and look for ways to channel that force into exercise and constructive activity. Also, when we look at little boys, let’s keep in mind that they aren’t finished yet. History shows that many great men began as baffling, headstrong boys who...

Image by fikirbaz via Flickr By Dr Bill Maier What would happen if you started a new career with no training? You’d probably have a hard time doing your job. In the same way, you can’t expect a new father to naturally know how to raise a family without a little training. Most of us get that training by watching our own fathers, seeing how they react to certain situations, and taking notes as they care for their children . But what happens to a boy who grows up without a father? How does he know what to do? In many cases, he doesn’t. I recently received a tragic letter from a young man in that very situation. He grew up fatherless, and now found himself unequipped to deal with his kids. The best thing a new father can do in this situation is to find a mentor who can give advice and encouragement when problems arise. Every job takes a little training — especially fatherhood. From TODAY, Voices - Wednesday, 07-April-2010 ----- Blogged with the Flock Browser Related artic...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier IS THERE anything quite as frustrating as catching your little angel in a lie? All kids tell fibs from time to time – some worse than others. And as parents, it’s important that we head the problem off before it becomes a habit. Kids who learn that they can get away with little lies, often begin telling bigger lies, which can lead to major problems later in life. Before acting too harshly, remember that there’s a very thin line between fantasy and reality in the mind of a preschooler. But kids who are clearly lying to get out of trouble need to be held accountable. Explain to them how important a person’s word is. If it happens again, don’t be afraid to punish them. Honesty is a critical virtue, and the time to instill that trait is while kids are still young. From TODAY, Voices - Tuesday, 23-March-2010 ----- Blogged with the Flock Browser Related articles by Zemanta The Tooth Fairy Milestone... (jer979.blogspot.com) The Fant...

By Dr Bill Maier All teenagers want to be trusted by their parents. But trust is something you earn, not demand. A counsellor once asked a group of teenagers: “How many of you consider yourselves to be honest with your parents?” Not one hand went up. When she asked why, one student answered: “I don’t actually lie; I just don’t tell them all the facts.” Sadly, a lot of teenagers have the same attitude. And they then complain when their parents do not trust them. But trust is a precious gift, and you have to work to gain it. You begin by developing a habit of telling the truth, no matter how painful it may be, even if you have to suffer consequences. And when you give your word, always follow through. When your plans change, call home to let your family know. And take care of things you borrow. It’s the little things each day that build trust between children and their parents. Once developed, trust seldom diminishes. From TODAY, Voices – Friday, 03-Jul-2009 Related a...

By Dr James Dobson Have you ever been awakened in the middle of the night by a boy or girl who was obviously terrified but couldn't tell you why? That child may have just experienced what's known as a "night terror," which is very different from a nightmare. It's important to understand the difference. If children are awakened in the middle of the night by a nightmare, they can usually describe the story and tell you what was so scary about it. Then they can be comforted and tucked in for the rest of the night. But youngsters in the midst of night terrors usually can't be brought to consciousness , even though they may sit up straight in bed with their eyes open. It appears that night terrors occur in what is known as Stage Four sleep, which is deeper and farther from consciousness than any other human experience. Nightmares , on the other hand, occur in Stage Three sleep, which means they're closer to consciousness. The good news is that there appear ...