Mi Choza De Nipa

By Dr James Dobson Sometimes, even the best of parents have a hard time accepting their children just the way they are. Parents of a child who is extremely shy, for example, will often ask me how they can pull him out of his shell. At home he may make profound statements, he may share observations about life, he may even tell the funniest jokes. But in public his tongue becomes wedged to his cheek and his head drops as if glued to his chest. Why is he so introverted around strangers? It could be because he’s been hurt or rejected in the past. But it’s more likely he was born that way. No amount of goading or pushing by his parents will make him outgoing or confident. His shyness is a function of his innate temperament. My advice to parents of such a child is simply this: Give up trying to make him something he cannot be. Go with the flow, accepting him just the way he is made. Then look for those special qualities that give that boy or girl individuality and potential. Nurture...

By Dr James Dobson Marguerite and Willard Beecher, writing many years ago, offered two insightful recommendations to parents. They said first, that a parent needs to gain his or her freedom from the child, so that the child can obtain his or her freedom from the parent. Second, they said that a parent should do nothing for a child that the child can profit from doing himself or herself. Now, there's great wisdom in those words. A newborn is, of course, completely helpless. But about 20 years later, he or she should have developed the skills and the self-discipline necessary for independent adult living. In other words, during the short course of childhood, an individual should progress from complete dependency to independency , from irresponsibility to responsibility. It comes by preparing the child day by day for the eventual moment of release. The Beechers said that parents who continue their servitude as the child matures may be handicapping him or her for life. So a primary o...