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From Focus on the Family If you appreciate all your husband does for the family , then make sure you tell him. Men may come across as tough as nails, but that doesn’t mean we don’t need to hear how much we mean to our wives and children . It’s nice to know that our families value the things we do. Tell your husband how much you appreciate the way he provides for the family. And be specific. Let him know that you notice the sacrifices he makes by putting his family first, instead of his own interests. Thank him for being such a good leader in the home and an example for your kids. Above all, support him in all he does. You may not always agree with the decisions he makes, but he needs to know that you trust his judgment. From TODAY, Voices - Thursday, 09-Sep-2010 ----- Related articles by Zemanta RICHARD HIMMER | Two Parenting Tools That Say "I Love You" More Effectively Than Words (kitsapsun.com) Five Basic Needs of Children (brighthub.com)

From Focus on the Family Husbands aren’t known for sharing their feelings too often, but there are some things our wives need to hear from time to time. Saying “I love you,” is just one of them. Let her know that she is of great worth to you. Tell her that no one will ever take her place in your life … or your heart. Make sure she understands how committed you are to the relationship — that no matter how bad things get, you will always be willing to work it out. All couples argue, but commitment to the marriage will always overcome any disagreement. Say to her, “I will always be truthful with you,” and then hold yourself to that promise. Honesty is critical to a successful relationship. Don’t assume that your wife knows how you feel about her. Take time to tell her every chance you get. From TODAY, Voices - Monday, 06-Sep-2010 ----- Related articles by Zemanta Love:the Only Secret to Everlasting Marital Bliss (socyberty.com) My Night at a Focus on the Family Event ...

Image via Wikipedia I've been tied up with things at home at in the office, that I have not been posting articles lately. I hope to catch up, and post even the past articles that I think are still relevant. For, as King Solomon said, "there is nothing new under the sun..." I've noticed that as well. Things change, and while they do, majority simply are cosmetic changes, not the essence. Till then! Au revoir!

By Dr James Dobson There’s a very special gift that men and women in their 50s, 60s and 70s have to offer to the people they come in contact with. That gift is wisdom — gleaned from years of experience. Wisdom can encourage and build up, and offer hope in troubled times. In days gone by, extended families lived together in the same house — young and old. People were able to get fresh perspectives, just by hashing out the events of the day at the dinner table. But in today’s mobile society, most of us live away from our families, and this valuable interaction is lacking. If you’re getting on in years, I’d urge you to find someone younger in your life that you could befriend. That frustrated young mother down the street might love to have an older woman come by for coffee , to listen and to say: “That’s normal. I remember when I felt just that way.” The young man in the office down the hall needs to hear from someone older and wiser: “You’re doing a good job. Keep up the good ...

by Dr Bill Maier Just when you thought you had your house all to yourself, look who shows up on your doorstep! More than ever, empty-nesters are opening their homes to a returning son or daughter. They’re called “boomerang” kids, and they’re growing in record numbers. Some are coming home to save money for university , or to search for the perfect job. Others may be going through personal problems and need a safe refuge. Whatever the reason, before the move-in takes place, make sure you sit down and discuss the boundaries and expectations. And do it quickly, so you don’t have any misunderstandings. No matter what their age, if they’re living under your roof, they need to live according to your rules. If it’s a temporary situation, set a clear timetable for their stay. Help them all you can, but be careful you don’t become an enabler to kids who just don’t want to grow up. From TODAY, Voices - Thursday, 20-May-2010 ----- Related articles by Zemanta How to Talk Money W...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson Divorce carries lifelong negative implications for children . Anything that interferes with the vital relationship with either parent can have lasting consequences for the child. For example, one landmark study revealed that 90 per cent of children from divorced homes suffered from an acute sense of shock when the separation occurred, including profound grieving and irrational fears. Some 50 per cent reported feeling rejected and abandoned, and half of the fathers never came to see their children three years after the divorce . One-third feared abandonment by the remaining parent, and 66 per cent experienced yearning for the absent parent, with an intensity that researchers described as overwhelming. Most significantly, 37 per cent of the children were even more unhappy and dissatisfied five years after the divorce than they had been after 18 months. It is certainly what I think about with righteous indignation when I see infidelity and marital ...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson In case you haven't noticed , parenthood is a very guilt-producing endeavor, even for the dedicated professional. Since there's no such creature as a perfect parent, we subject ourselves to a constant cross-examination in the courtroom of parental acceptability. Round and round go the self-doubts and recriminations, and guilt becomes a constant companion. The best way to handle guilt is to face it squarely, using it as a source of motivation for change where warranted. I would suggest that parents sit down together and discuss their feelings. Write down your most troubling parental shortcomings. Then ask yourselves: "Is my guilt valid? Can I do anything about it?" Remember that none of us can be perfect parents. We get tired and frustrated, and disappointed and irritable, and it can affect the way we approach those little ones around our feet. Fortunately, we are permitted to make many mistakes through the years, provided the o...

Image via Wikipedia From Dr James Dobson Many years ago , the late philosopher , Dr Francis Schaeffer said that the bridges that were built by the Romans nearly 2,000 years ago are still standing because they were used only for foot traffic. If large trucks or even cars were driven across them, they would have collapsed. Dr Schaeffer said our culture is like those bridges. As fewer and fewer people know what they believe, there's an unseen weakness in the superstructure . When hard times come, it's in danger of collapsing under its own weight. It occurs to me that many marriages share the characteristics of those old bridges today. They appear to be stable and secure. But as soon as sickness or financial reverses come, the husband and wife turn on each other with a vengeance. Husbands and wives need to reinforce the foundations of their relationship during the good times by becoming best friends and developing a set of common interests. Only then, will they be ready for the ...

Image via Wikipedia From Dr James Dobson We've spoken on several occasions about parents who couldn't care less about their children but today I want to address those at the other end of the continuum, referring to mothers and fathers for whom the kids are the only important thing in life. They can't spare the time for recreational, romantic or restful activities because to do so would make them feel guilty. Now, I don't question the motives behind this commitment to children but super- parenting can cause several serious problems. First, it may lead in some cases to overprotection , permissiveness and prolonged dependency. Second, it can lead to a state of emotional and physical exhaustion known as parental burnout . Then the entire family suffers, particularly the children for whom the effort was invested in the first place. Third, super-parenting can also be destructive to a marriage, especially when only one parent is so inclined. Moderation is the key to a healt...

By Dr James Dobson We've often heard the old suggestion that we should count to 10 when we get angry. It can be very valuable to have a cooling-off period before acting on those feelings. The reason for waiting is that anger is not only emotional , it's biochemical as well. The body is equipped with an automatic defence system called the " fight or flight " mechanism, which prepares the entire organism for action. When we're upset or frightened, adrenaline is pumped into the blood stream , setting off a whole series of physiological responses within the body. In a matter of seconds, the individual is transformed from being calm to a state of alarmed reaction. All of these biochemical responses are involuntary. What isn't involuntary however, is our response to these sudden changes. We can choose to hold our tongue; to remove ourselves from the provocative situation, particularly when we're dealing with children who anger us. We can control the impulse to...

By Dr James Dobson American educator William Lyon Phelps once said: “Every man who is happily married is a successful man, even if he has failed in everything else.” I certainly agree. For many years, I lived a short drive from the J Paul Getty Museum in Southern California , which houses some of the most incredible artwork in the world. This priceless collection was just one small hobby for Getty, who was reportedly the richest man alive in his time. He ruled over an enormous oil empire. When asked how much he was worth, he answered: “Several billion dollars,” and he added: “… but remember, a billion dollars isn’t worth what it used to be.” Getty was a workaholic . He had six failed marriages and poor relationships with his sons. His wives said that they could never share a life with this man who was possessed by an all-consuming passion for business. What do you suppose J Paul Getty thought about on his death bed in June 1976? Here’s one quote that opens a window into the soul o...