Always a Parent

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By Dr Bill Maier

At the age of 19, many children head off to university, and parents tend to think their job is done.

But just because your kids are older doesn’t mean they don’t need a parent anymore.

You’ll always be mum and dad — it’s just your role that has changed.

For 19 years you’ve disciplined and directed your kids, but now it’s time to become their adviser and friend.

Trying to control them after they’re grown will only push them away. But all children need comfort, advice and encouragement — even if they are grown up.

Give your kids the freedom to become their own people.

It takes a lot of restraint to allow your children to make their own decisions, but it’s the only way that they’ll learn true independence.

Be their friend, and be there when they need you, but beyond that, learn to let go.


From TODAY, Voices - Wednesday, 24-March-2010
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