From my paper
Striking a work-life balance
By Jill Alphonso
Up until the mid-20th century
was almost unthinkable. Traditionally
breadwinner while the woman stayed at home to care for
the kids.
Today
opportunities for women at the workplace
are increasingly becoming the norm.
About 44 per cent of married couples in
two working spouses
according to a study by the Ministry of Community
Development
However
in work and home life. Marriage counselors say couples fight
most frequently about not spending enough time with each other.
Ms Jennifer Chee
provides counseling and marriage preparation courses
that about half of her clients have work-life balance issues.
Many find that they bring stress home. Others are caught
in a vicious cycle: To maintain a certain standard of living
they have to work long hours
Counselling director Karen Gosling at Gosling International
adds that as a result
where they are respected and recognized – than go home to a
spouse who nags for not spending time at home.
Marriage counselors share these tips to resolve the issues:
@ Set a time to talk about what’s working in your relationship
and what’s not. This creates a safer space in which both parties
can feel respected and listened to.
@ Don’t complain about that your spouse is doing wrong.
That often leaves them feeling attached
Instead
you don’t come home for dinner” rather than “You don’t care
about me since you never come home for dinner.”
@ Identify what you need from your spouse. Some people may
need physical touch or gifts to fee connected; other may want
more time together. In the latter case
one day a week together
just to be with each other. Alternatively
work day to call each other. Whatever makes you tick
spouse. Sometimes that can take trial and error
@ Don’t bring home stress from work. Take a long bath or sit
in the car or house listening to music before talking about your
day to your spouse. Relaxing and restoring yourself will have you
actually conversing with your spouse
your complaints about your day on him or her.
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