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Image by michaelgoodin via Flickr By Dr James Dobson Many people have a hard time saying they are sorry to anyone, let alone their children . Although it is difficult to do, apologising when we are wrong provides opportunities to teach valuable lessons to our sons and daughters. I remember a time when our children were young and I was weighed down by the pressures that made me tired and irritable in the evenings. One night, I was especially grouchy and short-tempered with my 10-year-old daughter. After going to bed I felt bad about the way I had treated her and I just felt like I needed to apologise to her. I did so before she left for school the next morning. My daughter put her arms around my neck and said it was okay. Most children are very resilient and eager to reconcile. Asking them for forgiveness shows that you are human, with flaws and imperfections. It also creates an atmosphere wherein conflict and frustration can be resolved. From TODAY, Voices - Thursday, 15-Apr...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson William Shakespeare wrote: “Grief fills the room of my absent child Lies in his bed, walks up and down with me Puts on his pretty looks, repeats his words.” Let me tell you about my mother. My parents walked a rocky road in the early days of their marriage . But their relationship was soon cemented tight. And from that time until the day my mother died, she loved that man. It is impossible to describe how much she loved him. It was the kind of love for a husband that most men only dream about. A few years after my father died, my mother went into the hospital . She was experiencing some symptoms. So they ran a barrage of tests, and finally two physicians sat down with her. They said: “Mrs Dobson, your problem is not a physical ailment. It is grief that is killing you, and you must find a way to release it.” But she never did. She couldn’t do it. She simply loved my father too deeply. Grief for a lost family member is good and necessar...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson According to Dr Burton White at Harvard University , there are six factors that contribute to the intellectual capacity of a child, three of which were discussed in yesterday’s column. Now for the rest of the list ... It was shown that children given free access to the living rooms of their homes progressed much faster than those whose movements were restricted. Next, the nuclear family is the most important educational delivery system. If we’re going to produce capable, happy children, it will be by strengthening family units and by improving the interactions that occur within them. Finally, the best parents were those who excelled at three key functions: They were superb designers and organisers of their children’s environments; they permitted their children to interrupt them for brief 30-second episodes during which personal comfort and information were exchanged; and lastly, they were firm disciplinarians, while simultaneously show...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson According to a study by Dr Burton White at Harvard University , there are six key factors that contribute to the development of intelligence in children . Here are the first three: It is increasingly clear that the origins of human competence are found in a critical period of development between eight and 18 months of age. The child’s experiences during these brief months do more to influence future intellectual competence than any time before or after. The single most important factor in the life of the child is his mother. Says Dr White: “She carries more influence on her child’s experiences than any other circumstance.” Fathers are important too, but nothing compares with a mother’s love and involvement during that critical period. The amount of live language directed at a child (not to be confused with television , radio , or overheard conversations) is vital to his development of fundamental linguistic, intellectual, and social sk...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier We hear a lot about mothers struggling with Empty Nest Syndrome, but often it’s good old dad who takes it the hardest. All parents have a hard time when kids leave home, but a recent survey showed that many fathers actually take it harder than their wives. Some men go through long periods of depression and anxiety . Experts believe this is because fathers often have more regrets. They’ve been so busy building a nice home and a successful career that they’ve let the years slip through their fingers. Suddenly, they look up and it’s too late. Their child is gone, and they never developed the kind of relationship they wanted to have. If you still have children at home, take the time now to enjoy being with them while they’re young. Use the time you have to invest in their lives, and get to know them while you have a chance. From TODAY, Voices - Friday, 09-April-2010 ----- Blogged with the Flock Browser Related articles by Zemanta Parent...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier Is your child prepared for the changes of puberty ? If so, are you? All children are different and reach puberty at different ages. Boys normally reach it at around the age of 14 and girls at about 12. That’s why parents need to start talking to their children about the changes they can expect from puberty long before it arrives. Kids are usually more open to discussing it before the changes have begun. If we wait until it’s too late, they may feel more uncomfortable. It’s also important to be clear and specific about what changes they can expect. Don’t assume they already know. What they’ve learned from friends and other sources may not be the full story. And while you’re discussing it, don’t forget to explain your values regarding purity and why these values are important to you. They’ll be more likely to follow your principles if you state them clearly, and then model them. From TODAY, Voices - Thursday, 08-April-2010 ----- Blogged wit...

Image by fikirbaz via Flickr By Dr Bill Maier What would happen if you started a new career with no training? You’d probably have a hard time doing your job. In the same way, you can’t expect a new father to naturally know how to raise a family without a little training. Most of us get that training by watching our own fathers, seeing how they react to certain situations, and taking notes as they care for their children . But what happens to a boy who grows up without a father? How does he know what to do? In many cases, he doesn’t. I recently received a tragic letter from a young man in that very situation. He grew up fatherless, and now found himself unequipped to deal with his kids. The best thing a new father can do in this situation is to find a mentor who can give advice and encouragement when problems arise. Every job takes a little training — especially fatherhood. From TODAY, Voices - Wednesday, 07-April-2010 ----- Blogged with the Flock Browser Related artic...