Thursday, March 06, 2008

... Be A Better Couple

How To Be A Better Couple

10 steps to enjoying each other better…


1. Be realistic about each other.

Don’t try to turn your partner into something he or she is not.

Let’s face it, guys-there’s only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world,

and even she has had her implants removed! Give your gal a break

and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to

change overnight with the help of a few facials or treatments.

And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you’re going to

have to do with what your guy is like! Chill out; love each other

for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets

the eye.


2. Always talk things out.

Now guys, I know this is not your favorite pastime or mode of

resolving issues, but you know what? This works with the gals.

Don’t make assumptions about each other’s feelings. Learn to express

yourself better so that your partner understands what you’re angry

about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When you stop talking

to each other from the heart, it’s the beginning of the end.


3. Do stuff together.

Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve

yourselves in some shared activities; something both of you enjoy

or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together,

or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer

with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts you

to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your gal asks for

another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that

she go out with her girlfriends for “that sort of activities” instead.

If you’re spending more time with your friends rather than with

your partner, it’s a warning sign that you’re drifting apart!!!


4. Meet each other halfway.

If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the “The Rock” print,

you shouldn’t kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room

tidy. There’s got to be a little giving and taking in a relationship,

so learn to meet each other halfway.


5. Show your love.

Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if

you have been together for 5 years. It’s wonderful to continue

showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special

meal; paint him a Valentine’s Day card. Knit him mini-socks he

can’t wear (like for decoration purposes), buy him a packet of milk

for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him… so he knows you can

still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite

a while.


6. Respect each other.

Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love

to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an

inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and

make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other’s feelings

and being sensitive to each other at all times.


7. Bury the past.

Stop bringing up the past. Gals… don’t bring up the happy things

about you and your ex to your guy, it would just make him jealous

or unhappy. And guys, don’t talk about the happy times that you had

with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence

as it would make your gal feel unhappy and she might think that

you’re saying all this because you’re going to get back with your ex

or not interested in her anymore.


8. Sit on your jealousy.

All of us go thru’ spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship,

but don’t translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you’re going to

go through your partner’s mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping

on conversations, you know something is wrong -- with you!!!

Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru’ the relationship

before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.


9. Keep your commitments to each other.

If your partner is standing you up all the time and cancelling dates

and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you’re in a relationship,

make your partner your priority and don’t disappoint them if you

can help it. It’s really terrible when someone promises to take you

to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don’t make promises you

can’t keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important

enough to you, you may just lose him/her.


10. Be honest.

Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the

morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly! When we say

“be honest”, we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being

bitingly cruel. When you’re hurt, say so, and when you’re angry,

tell him/her, without getting hysterical. If you can’t be honest

with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is also about

honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably

isn’t worth it!

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