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Image by supa m.b. via Flickr By Dr James Dobson Suppose a complete stranger comes to your door and tells you, "You look tired, why don't you just leave the children with me?" I doubt many of you would say: " Great Idea , come on in!" When we leave our children in front of the television , we're giving over control of them to complete strangers. That's a risky thing to do. An increasing number of studies have found that violence on television frequently leads later to aggressive behaviour by children and teenagers. One of the most conclusive studies was conducted by Dr Leonard D Aaron. His studies showed that the more frequently the participants watched violent television at the age of 8, the more serious were the crimes that they were convicted of by the age of 30 and the more aggressive was their behaviour when drinking. It is time for parents to control the amount and the content of television their children are watching. The consequences of not do...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson What's the primary reason for failure in secondary school ? According to many teachers, the answer is not laziness or poor study skills . The main reason for failure in secondary school is poor organisation . An achieving student's file is organised with dividers and folders for handouts and assignments. A failing student's file is most often a mess of jumbled papers, if he even uses a file at all. Educational expert Cheri Fuller says it's a skill that should be taught early, even before students reach secondary school. It takes a good degree of organisation to keep them all straight and to prioritise assignments. They need training and other organisational skills such as planning to complete long term assignments a little at a time. This kind of exposure and training can help a flighty adolescent become a self-disciplined and self-propelled individual in time. Organisation. It is one very important key to success in school. Fr...

By Dr James Dobson I’m more convinced every day that a great portion of our adult effort is invested in the quest for that which was unreachable in childhood. The more painful the early void, the more we’re motivated to fill it later in life. A friend named Diane had a father who never met her needs for love and attention and belonging. Even today, he seems oblivious to the pain he has caused her. Diane used to find herself constantly feeling disappointed, hurt and rejected each time he failed to come through. But then she learned accidentally that he had been severely abused as a child. His own father and mother had died when he was a boy and the aunt who raised him was so severe, she even forbade him to cry. Diane suddenly saw her dad in a different light . He was not just a rejecting father, he was a man with an emotional handicap. Her experience is not unique. Loved ones who continually frustrate and disappoint us are often reacting to wounds from their own formative yea...

Image via Wikipedia This should be the way to go! ---------- 05:55 AM Jun 09, 2009 BEIJING - China wants all personal computers sold domestically to come with software that blocks access to online pornography, which it has banned, the main developer of the software said yesterday. The software, called Green Dam-Youth Escort, targets online porn by preventing computers from accessing sites with pornographic pictures or language , Mr Zhang Chenmin, general manager of Jinhui Computer System Engineering, told AP. Jinhui was compiling a database of the blocked sites. The software could also be used to block other kinds of websites, depending on keywords, he said, adding that consumers can uninstall the software if they do not want it. Parents can develop their own lists of sites to be added to the database of blacklisted sites. The Chinese government routinely blocks political sites, especially those it considers socially destabilising, such as sites that challenge the ruling Communist P...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson If you want to put some new life in your marriage , try thinking like a teenager again. We all remember, fondly or otherwise, the craziness of our dating days – the coy attitudes, the flirting, the chase after the prize. But as we moved into marriage, most of us felt we should leave the game-playing behind. But we may not have changed as much as we'd like to think. The truth is that our romantic relationships will always bear some characteristics of adolescent sexuality. Grown-ups still love the thrill of the chase, the lure of the unattainable, the excitement of the new and the boredom with the old. The immature impulses are controlled and minimised in a committed relationship , but they never fully disappear. And this is the key for keeping life in our marriages. If things seem stale between you and your spouse, maybe you should remember some old tricks, repeating some of the happy moments that brought you together. Maybe it's time for...

By Dr James Dobson What is the most common error made by parents in disciplining their children? I believe it is the inappropriate use of anger in attempting to manage children. Unfortunately, most adults rely primarily on their own irritation to make children cooperate. A teacher said: "I like being a professional educator , but I hate the daily task of teaching. My children are so unruly that I have to stay mad at them all the time just to control the classroom." How utterly frustrating that would be, and how ineffective. Disciplinary action influences behaviour. Anger does not. I am convinced that adult irritation actually creates disrespect in the minds of children. They can see that our frustration is caused by our inability to control the situation. We represent justice to them, and yet we are on the verge of tears as we shout empty threats and warnings. I am not recommending that parents and teachers conceal their legitimate emotions. My point merely is that anger of...

By Dr Bill Maier Marriages that thrive are those where both husband and wife develop a servant mentality, looking for ways to meet each other's needs. It doesn't take a big expensive gift to thrill your mate. Just noticing what she needs and being willing to step in and help goes a long way towards making her life easier. Don't wait for her to ask before giving her a hand around the house. Take time to make the bed, or put in a load of clothes. If you see she's had a stressful day, take the kids to the playground and give her the evening off. She might just want to go shopping, visit some friends or just stay at home. It's the little things like these that keep a strong marriage growing even stronger. From TODAY, Voices – Friday, 05-Jun-2009 Related articles by Zemanta Problems with Your Husband? Do You Think Your Marriage is Damaged? (counselingonlinesite.com) Mistakes In A Marriage (counselingonlinesite.com) Marriage Emphasizes Commitment (psychcentral.com...

By Zhang Tingjun, Channel NewsAsia | Posted: 06 June 2009 1927 hrs Schools should build bully-free culture to curb problem of school-bullying SINGAPORE : One in five primary school students are victims of school bullies while 25 per cent of secondary school students get bullied , according to statistics from the Singapore Children's Society. In an ongoing effort to curb this problem, the society is working together with school teachers, parents and students to build a no-bullying culture in schools . The society said a school-based approach requires the entire school community to work together with students, parents and teachers, sharing a common vision to build a safe and bully-free school environment. Speaking at the Bully- Free Forum on Saturday, Minister of State for Community Development , Youth and Sports, Mrs Yu-Foo Yee Shoon , said parents and teachers play a crucial role in helping children who are bullied and in ensuring that children do not become bullies...