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By Dr James Dobson American educator William Lyon Phelps once said: “Every man who is happily married is a successful man, even if he has failed in everything else.” I certainly agree. For many years, I lived a short drive from the J Paul Getty Museum in Southern California , which houses some of the most incredible artwork in the world. This priceless collection was just one small hobby for Getty, who was reportedly the richest man alive in his time. He ruled over an enormous oil empire. When asked how much he was worth, he answered: “Several billion dollars,” and he added: “… but remember, a billion dollars isn’t worth what it used to be.” Getty was a workaholic . He had six failed marriages and poor relationships with his sons. His wives said that they could never share a life with this man who was possessed by an all-consuming passion for business. What do you suppose J Paul Getty thought about on his death bed in June 1976? Here’s one quote that opens a window into the soul o...

By Dr James Dobson Have you ever found the courage to say “I’m sorry” to a child? It’s a tough thing to do and, frankly, my father never was very good at it. I remember working with him one day in the backyard when I was 15, on a day when he was particularly irritable. He picked on me for everything I did, even when I hurried. Finally, he yelled at me for something I considered petty, and I just threw down the rake and quit. I walked off, and I walked across our property and down the street while my dad demanded that I come back. It was one of the few times that I ever took him on like that. I meandered around town for a while wondering what would happen when I got home and ended up at my cousin’s house on the other side of town. After several hours, with knees shaking, I called home. “Stay there,” said my dad, “I’m coming over.” To say that I was nervous would be a gross understatement. In a short time, dad arrived and asked to see me alone. “ Beau ,” he began, “I didn’t treat you ri...

The only obstacle to fulfilling our dreams is in our mind. Here is an example of a couple, from two different worlds of a ‘broken dream’, a woman with an arm, and a man with a leg. On their own, they succumbed to their inabilities, but together, they excelled – THEY WON! Read their story before you their (winning performance) video… ----- In a Chinese modern dance competition on TV , one very unique couple won one of the top prizes. The lady, in her 30's, was a dancer who had trained since she was a little girl. Later in life, she lost her entire left arm in an accident and fell into a state of depression for a few years. Someone then asked her to coach a Children's dancing group. From that point on, she realized that she could not forget dancing. She still loved to dance and wanted to dance again. So, she started to do some of her old routines, but having lost her arm, she had also lost her balance. It took a while before she could even make simple turns and spins without fa...

This is a repost… the first time I did, it was simply a copy of the clipping, and it doesn't print well. So hopefully, this will be OK now. ----- PREGNANCY PROBLEMS They are a 'growing concern', but many women decline treatment ALICIA WONG, alicia@mediacorp.com.sg SHE was cranky and constantly craved her husband's attention — but she thought it was because she was pregnant, and those traits would go away in time. After all, this was her fifth pregnancy, and the previous four had gone smoothly. But after having difficulty breastfeeding her one-week-old baby boy due to an earlier fever, Madam Chong's emotions took a turn for the worse. "I was disappointed and very frustrated," the 39-year-old housewife shared. This soon escalated into insomnia. The final straw came when she woke up in near-hysterics one night. "That's when I realised something was not quite right," she said. Mdm Chong was later diagnosed at the National University Hospital wi...

By Dr James Dobson The mother of a preschooler asked me how she could raise her little girl so as to minimise the chances of adolescent rebellion down the road. She had seen teenagers get into drug abuse and premarital sex and other harmful habits, so she wanted to know if there was anything she could do to set up a more tranquil adolescence . I told her that when I was a kid, my parents kept me out of trouble with a battalion of rules. They had regulations for every misbehaviour, and so did most other parents. And then the culture reinforced those rules and, somehow, it usually worked out pretty well. But that won’t get the job done today. It’s a different world, and there are just too many opportunities for kids to go wrong. They still need boundaries and limits but something else is required. They need the motivation to do what’s right, and that desire to live responsibly comes principally from a loving relationship by parents who have invested themselves in their children . Pa...

By Dr James Dobson There is, in the world of nature, a phenomenon known as the “Adversity Principle” which means that difficulties and hard times can actually be more beneficial to plants and animals than continual easy living. As strange as it seems, habitual well-being can be disadvantageous to a species . Think about the big male lion lying in a cage at the zoo . All his needs are met, and his hunting skills are useless. Meanwhile, the lion roaming free on the plains of Africa , stalking and competing for his next meal, remains fit and strong by the challenges and dangers he faces. This principle is seen throughout nature, where the necessity to adapt and struggle, if it doesn’t result in death and extinction , tends to produce a tougher species with a better hold on life. Could it also be that adversity is beneficial to human beings , as well? Within limits, that seems to be the case. Although we complain and squirm when it comes our way, our first response to trouble is to say,...

By Dr James Dobson So many men I meet have such good intentions. That is why they say yes to their wife and children so often. Unfortunately, as plans change and other pressures take priority, those yeses soon become nos. This turns many men into promise breakers. Are you a promise breaker or keeper? How would your children answer if we asked them that question? A son asks his father: “Dad, can we go bowling on Saturday?” The father replies: “Sure,” without really thinking. The days pass and then Friday comes and the man’s boss asks if he can come in for a few hours on Saturday. The man says yes. Saturday morning , his son is waiting for him with his bowling gear ready by the door. “Sorry son, I forgot about bowling. Daddy has to work today. Maybe next week,” says the man. And another promise has been broken. What the world needs and what your children need are more promise keepers and less promise breakers. Is there a commitment that you have made recently that you have pushed to t...

More hubby support to help with stress from the recession by Lin Yan Qin 05:55 AM May 09, 2009 THE best Mother’s Day present working mothers in Singapore wish for this year? More support from their husbands. Over eight in 10 women feel they have not been getting enough support from their husbands since the recession kicked in, a survey by the Working Mothers Forum (WMF) has found. In contrast, five in 10 felt this way before the recession began. More women are also worried about being expected to make work a priority or face limited career prospects, compared to the number who felt this way before the recession began, according to the survey, which polled 100 working mothers last month. This, they worried, could limit the time they could spend with their children. Ms Cheryl Liew, vice-chairperson of WMF’s panel of experts, urged women to communicate with their husbands if they felt stretched. “Guide him or give him specific tips on how he can help,” she said. “Most men want to help ...