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Image by Grufnik via Flickr By Dr James Dobson Have you noticed that routine panic is becoming a way of life for today's families? But guess who's the inevitable loser from this breathless lifestyle? It's the little guy who's leaning against the wall with his hands in the pockets of his blue jeans . He misses his father during the long day but Dad's all tired out. Besides he has a briefcase full of work to be done. Mum had promised to take him to the park this afternoon but then she had to attend a school meeting at the last minute. Children just don't fit into a to-do list very well. It takes time to introduce them to good books. It takes time to listen once more to the bruised knee episode from the playground and talk about the bird with the broken wing. These are the building blocks of esteem held together with the mortar of love. But they seldom materialise amidst busy schedules. Instead, crowded lives produce fatigue , fatigue produces irritability , ...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson Every parent of a teenager may wonder at some point if their son or daughter has gone crazy. How can you tell the difference between normal behaviour and the beginnings of mental illness ? Dr Paul Meier explains that all teenagers exhibit some symptoms of what appears to be mental illness. It's just part of growing up. But there are some serious warning signs parents should watch for. Beware if your teenager begins to lose touch with reality; if he develops illusions or actually hears voices; if he accuses you, with all seriousness, of poisoning his food ; or he's convinced that people are trying to read his mind. Such behavior requires immediate attention. Symptoms that remain untreated for six months or longer may become permanently ingrained in the chemical pathways of the brain . While a parent of a teen must accept some distressing behaviour as normal, prompt response to the early signs of mental illness will offer the greatest h...

Image by cfarivar via Flickr By Dr James Dobson Parents should have some firm objectives in mind to help guide their child-rearing efforts. Often, when I'm flying into Los Angeles International Airport at night, I look ahead to see the green runway lights that tell the captain where to land the plane. If he brings his craft down between those borders all should be well. Similarly, parents need some runway lights — some guiding principles that will help them raise their children . Without a beacon or two to direct their flight, they could be blindly approaching a very complex and important task. In my opinion, there are two objectives that can serve as runway lights to guide the parent-child relationship. The first is to convey an awareness of love to our children. Without it, they wither like a plant without water . The second is equally important, but less commonly recognised. It's the need to teach our kids to respect our leadership as parents. The child's relationsh...

Image by The Library of Congress via Flickr By Dr James Dobson We talked last time about the life-long consequences of divorce on children , but what about parent-child separation that occurs for reasons other than divorce? Recent research confirms that the consequences of any parent-child separation are severe. In one study of fathers whose jobs required them to be away from their families for long periods of time, the children tended to experience numerous specific reactions, including anger, rejection, depression , low self-esteem , and inevitably a decline in school performance. I think I understand at least in small measure, the pain of that separation. In fact I experienced it for a short time when I was six years old. My mother and father left me with my aunt for six months while they traveled. Even today I can remember vividly the evening they left. I sat on my mother's lap while she told me how much she loved me and how she and my father would come back for me as so...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr James Dobson Divorce carries lifelong negative implications for children . Anything that interferes with the vital relationship with either parent can have lasting consequences for the child. For example, one landmark study revealed that 90 per cent of children from divorced homes suffered from an acute sense of shock when the separation occurred, including profound grieving and irrational fears. Some 50 per cent reported feeling rejected and abandoned, and half of the fathers never came to see their children three years after the divorce . One-third feared abandonment by the remaining parent, and 66 per cent experienced yearning for the absent parent, with an intensity that researchers described as overwhelming. Most significantly, 37 per cent of the children were even more unhappy and dissatisfied five years after the divorce than they had been after 18 months. It is certainly what I think about with righteous indignation when I see infidelity and marital ...

Image by richardmasoner via Flickr By Dr Bill Maier Are you looking for a good way to strengthen your marriage ? Try playing tennis with your spouse, or going on a bike ride. It's a fact that couples who play together tend to stay together. Men place a great deal of importance on shared activities with their spouse, while women tend to thrive on emotional intimacy , which usually comes through just being together. My wife and I are into hiking and mountain biking , and we've used those activities to bond, as well as to build a lot of great memories. Some of our best conversations have taken place on the hiking trail or the bike path. The quickest way to let passion plummet in a relationship is to disconnect. If he's always off playing golf with his buddies, and she's meeting with her hobby club, emotional intimacy can fall by the wayside. The strongest couples learn to develop shared interests, and then work them into their weekly schedules. From TODAY, Voices –...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier Don't you love people who brag about how their little one was potty trained at 10 months, while your two-year-old is still in diapers ? I've never understood why there's so much competition among parents to rush their toddlers along when it comes to potty training. But the pressure is very real, and almost all mothers feel it, even though it has nothing to do with intelligence or ability. Kids are just ready to do different things at different times. The best approach to toilet training is to relax and let it happen naturally. Dr Kevin Lehman suggests buying a little potty chair and putting it in the bathroom without saying a word to your toddler . Let them discover it on their own. Then let them decide when they want to use it. Curiosity is bound to get the best of them, and when they do begin to learn, really praise them and tell them how big they are getting. Before long they'll be out of diapers — and it will happen on their ...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier Have you noticed how most television commercials look more like music videos than product ads? There is a reason for that. When it comes to spending huge advertising budgets, do not think that companies are not aware of what they are doing. Media groups have done their homework. They know who's buying their products, and what works to get their attention. It is our kids that they are targeting, and commercials reflect that fact. One recent media study showed that more children than ever have televisions in their rooms and Internet access at home. Over 40 per cent had visited a website because they saw an ad on TV , and many have money to spend once they get there. This may be good news for advertisers, but it should give parents a little cause for pause. How well have we taught our kids to be discerning, and to keep from being manipulated by the media? Let's make sure our kids are as savvy as the advertisers who target them. From TOD...

Image via Wikipedia By Dr Bill Maier Just looking at a secondary school student's schedule book makes me tired. Secondary school students today are busier than ever. Not only does school start early, but after school there's soccer , tuition , piano lessons, gymnastics , events and homework that never seems to end. I don't know how some of them do it. It's good for teens to stay busy and productive. Not only are they less likely to get into trouble, they're learning valuable work habits for their future careers. But there are dangers we need to watch out for. Teens who try to do too much face the risk of burnout and exhaustion . They can get so busy that nothing gets done very well. Their grades may suffer, leading to worry and depression , even physical or emotional sickness. If your teen is too busy, it may be time to put the brakes on certain activities. Teach them to say no and to pace themselves. It's better for them to do a few things well than to ex...