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FOCUS ON THE FAMILY   From TODAY, Voices Friday January 9, 2009   By Dr James Dobson   Have you ever noticed that it’s much easier to handle stress if you have some warning it’s coming? There’s something about knowing a tough experience lies ahead that helps us to get ready for the difficulty, to mobilise our resources for a challenge to come.   It’s for this reason that I recommend that parents begin talking to their children long before the teen years about the joys and discomforts of adolescence. Begin discussing self-confidence in the primary school years. Then in the period immediately before puberty, make it known that the teen years are often accompanied by a massive assault on self-worth; where everybody seems to feel ugly and unintelligent and useless.   But also explain that this is a temporary experience, like going through a tunnel from which you will inevitably emerge. It would also be wise ...

FOCUS ON THE FAMILY   From TODAY, Voices Thursday January 8, 2009   By Dr James Dobson   Problems over the use of money are among the most common sources of conflict in marriage. Yet, newlyweds begin to head down that destructive road when they use credit cards indiscriminately and take out loans to buy things they can’t afford and don’t need.   Newlyweds often find themselves arguing about money and credit cards because their spouses have different value systems.   My father was a hunter who thought nothing of using three boxes of shotgun shells in an afternoon of recreational shooting. Yet, if my mother spent an equal amount of money on a potato peeler that wouldn’t work, he considered it wasteful. Never mind that she enjoyed shopping as much as he did hunting. His values were simply different from hers.   Whether a couple agrees with one another or not, buying on credit is a potential disaster. Tha...

I was looking up some ways on how to make money online. I already know about Google ads, adsense, etc., so I was thinking if there are other ways. There are, but beware that you don't get scammed. Search up very well any company or group or articles that will say otherwise; (this remindes me, hear what the 'devil's advocate' has to say). In these days of easy internet scams, the 'lie and deception' we hear or read is like an 'absolute truth' that is so temptingly easy to believe (like a fish swallowing the hook, line and sinker), but exercise more caution - search on with the company/group name + keywords like 'scam', 'legal', 'hoax', etc.     I was almost convinced by these sites, which is actually one and the same: http://www.secrets-book.com/home.html http://www.internetwealthscams.com/ http://asianhomebiz.com/     Until I searched on and found this: http://www.affhelper.com/opinions/ultimate-we...

May not be watching this on stage with Lea Salonga playing the Cinderella part, but here's the American version...

FOCUS ON THE FAMILY   From TODAY, Voices Wednesday January 7, 2009   By Dr James Dobson   Someone once said that life is like giving a violin concert in public, and learning to play it as you go. Actually, that sounds a lot like raising children.   It seems that being a good parent is becoming more and more difficult these days. Of course, it’s never been all that easy. For one thing, babies come into the world with no instructions, and you pretty much have to assemble them on your own. They are also maddeningly complex, and there are no guaranteed formulas that work in every instance. The techniques that succeed with one child can fail miserably with another.   I bring this up because if you’re struggling along today, trying to raise your children but meeting with frustration and hardships I say: Welcome to the club.   The world of parenting is come as you are; learn as you go; and keep your chin up. To th...

FOCUS ON THE FAMILY   From TODAY, Voices Tuesday January 6, 2009   By Dr James Dobson   Many marriages following the honeymoon lose the wind in their romantic sails and wallow in the doldrums for months and even years.   Well, marriages that were once exciting and loving can also get caught in the romantic doldrums, causing a slow and painful death to the relationship.   Mr Doug Fields wrote in his book Creative Romance : “Dating and romancing your spouse can change those patterns, and can be a lot of fun. There’s no quick fix to a sour marriage, of course, but lay aside the excuses and begin to date your sweetheart again.”   Allow new breezes to fill the sails of your relationship.   It will take a conscious effort, but be creative. How about breakfast in bed? A kiss in the rain? Or perhaps re-reading those old love letters?   A honeymoon need not be a one-time experience.   ...

FOCUS ON THE FAMILY   From TODAY, Voices Monday January 5, 2009   By Dr James Dobson   Given a choice between a compliment and a criticism, who wouldn’t choose a compliment? Unfortunately though, some parents forget this when they talk to their children.   Psychologist Abraham Maslow once said, “It takes nine affirming comments to make up for each critical comment we give to our children.” It’s true that all normal human beings respond to praise. In fact, we crave affirmation so much that we’re likely to do almost anything to receive it. This is especially true of children. As someone said, “Whoever gives your kids praise and attention has power over them.”   If you don’t affirm your children, I can assure you that someone else will. And that could be a drug dealer, a gang member, or anyone else who could harm them. Many people with lifestyles contrary to your own are willing to p...

FOCUS ON THE FAMILY   From TODAY, Voices Friday January 2, 2009   By Dr James Dobson   If you really want to give your kids an edge in the world, teach them to go above and beyond the call of duty.   Quality work is a rare thing, and people take notice. Here are a few key principles to help your children rise above the pack.   First, teach them to recognise their strengths and weaknesses. And to play to their strengths while working on their weaknesses.   Next, they should learn to accept constructive criticism. It’s easy to get defensive when someone analyses our performance, but the only way to grow is through knowing what we need to work on.   Finally, teach them to recognise quality work when they see it – both in themselves and others. And to appreciate the effort that goes into it.   Quality doesn’t happen by accident, and kids who learn early to be all that they can be, have a...