A joint pregnancy

By Dr Bill Maier

When a couple conceives, it may be the woman who carries the baby, but pregnancy is a two-person job. A supportive husband makes all the difference in how well women do during pregnancy. She’s going through a lot of physical and emotional changes, and she needs you more than ever. Just being there for her is often all it takes to turn a difficult pregnancy into a fulfilling one.

Many women go through stages of morning sickness, and the nausea often comes in the middle of the night. Instead of sleeping through it, take the time to stay up with her. Even if all you can do is hold her hand or bring her water.

She may go through times of sadness and insecurity, remind her how much you love her, and how excited you are at the prospect of being a new dad.

Above all, be patient and understanding — even if you don’t understand. That’s often all she needs to feel better.


From TODAY, Voices - Friday, 21-May-2010
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Boomerang kids

by Dr Bill Maier

Just when you thought you had your house all to yourself, look who shows up on your doorstep!

More than ever, empty-nesters are opening their homes to a returning son or daughter.

They’re called “boomerang” kids, and they’re growing in record numbers.

Some are coming home to save money for university, or to search for the perfect job. Others may be going through personal problems and need a safe refuge.

Whatever the reason, before the move-in takes place, make sure you sit down and discuss the boundaries and expectations. And do it quickly, so you don’t have any misunderstandings. No matter what their age, if they’re living under your roof, they need to live according to your rules.

If it’s a temporary situation, set a clear timetable for their stay. Help them all you can, but be careful you don’t become an enabler to kids who just don’t want to grow up.


From TODAY, Voices - Thursday, 20-May-2010
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Fighting marital boredom

By Dr Bill Maier

Are there nights when you sit at the dinner table with nothing to say to your spouse? If so, maybe your marriage needs a shot of adrenaline.

During the dating years, couples never seem to run out of things to talk about.

We all remember the days when we spent hours laughing and sharing and just enjoying being together. Then, wed go home only to call and talk some more.

So, what was different back then? In a nutshell, the romance was fun because it was fresh. We had a lot to say because new things were constantly being introduced into the relationship.

Theres no reason that should stop when we get married. Its easy to fall into a rut and take each other for granted. But smart couples work at fighting boredom in order to keep their marriage alive.

Sometimes thats as easy as taking up a new hobby, or planning a fun weekend away. Dont let your marriage get stale with age. Look for ways to keep it fresh and exciting.


From TODAY, Voices - Wednesday, 19-May-2010
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The Dating Debate

By Dr Bill Maier

At what age do you plan to let your teenagers start dating? Better decide now, before your children get older.

In the past, most parents said 16 was a proper age, but today, a lot of families are questioning whether that is a good idea.

You have to wonder what good can come of two hormonally-charged teenagers pairing off and spending hours together with no supervision. It is a formula for trouble.

Many parents now encourage their teens to group date. It is a great way for young adults to develop healthy relationships without the unhealthy temptation.

Other parents allow their children to date, but not until the age of 18, and even then in moderation.

However you feel about your kids’ dating habits, it’s important to discuss it with them at an early age. Make sure they understand your rules – and your reasoning behind those rules.


From TODAY, Voices - Tuesday, 18-May-2010
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Our Most Critical Task

By Dr Bill Maier

For all the tasks that life puts on our plate, there is one area where none of us can afford to fail. Between being busy with work and many of life’s other activities, it is amazing anything gets done well.

But there is one area of life that stands heads above the rest in importance: Raising kids to be healthy, happy, and well adjusted.

It is the most critical thing we will ever do.

Parenting is serious business. The stakes are unbelievably high, and the cost of failure is immense. We are raising the leaders of the next generation, and what we do with that responsibility will echo into history.

The world is filled with good counsellors who are ready with great advice and resources.

So, when you feel confused and challenged by the job of parenting, don’t be afraid to ask for help.


From TODAY, Voices - Monday, 17-May-2010
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