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From FOCUS ON THE FAMILY , Today , 08-May-2008 edition   Give Your Marriage A Tune-Up By Dr Bill Maier   When was the last time you gave your marriage a “tune up”?   You wouldn’t let your car go for years without checking under the hood , so why not give your marriage the same attention?   Couples need regular periods to sit down and clear the air. This is a good time to talk about the decisions you need to make , as well as the ones that you’ve already made. Also , make sure you don’t have any unfinished business between the two of you.   Ask your spouse if anything is weighing them down. Maybe they’re worried about the kids or a project at work. They may be feeling lonely and need a bit of time to cuddle and reconnect.   This is also a good time to compare calendars and do some advanced planning for the future , like scheduling date nights , vacations and we...

From FOCUS ON THE FAMILY , Today , 07-May-2008 edition   Forgiveness is a Choice By Dr Bill Maier   What do you do when someone says they’re sorry?   The same thing you do even if they don’t. You forgive them.   Forgiveness isn’t about the other person; it is about you. Holding a grudge only holds us hostage to the wrongs of others.   Forgiveness is a choice , not a feeling. Few people feel like Forgiving when someone has hurt them , but dwelling on it only makes things worse.   The first step in moving forward is to decide to forgive — even if the offending party has not acknowledged their wrongdoing.   And forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget the transgression. You just decide to no longer hold it against the other party.   You give up the right to nurse a grudge , or to use the episode against the offender.   So when someone says they’...

From FOCUS ON THE FAMILY, Today, 06-May-2008 edition   Raising Young Peacemakers By Dr Bill Maier   “Sally, stop hitting your brother! Billy, quit pulling Susie’s hair!”   Sounds familiar? Maybe it’s time for a crash course in conflict management.   There’s a lot we can do as parents to help kids resolve arguments before they get out of hand – that is if they don’t kill each other first!   Here are three key principles for raising young peacemakers.   First, teach them that most conflicts are caused by self-centredness. When two people want their own way, an argument is inevitable.   The key to getting along begins in the heart, by putting the feelings of others ahead of our own.   Second, explain that not all disagreements are bad. Conflict can be an opportunity for growth. It helps us learn how to compromise and solve problems through negotiatio...

From FOCUS ON THE FAMILY, Today, 05-May-2008 edition   Explaining to Kids the Birds and the Bees By Dr Bill Maier   “Mommy, where do babies come from?”   If your toddler has not asked that question yet – get ready!   Too often parents avoid these tough questions about the birds and the bees, and their kids grow up confused.   Many learn about sex from anyone else but their parents. The slang and obscenities they hear on the playground become their first real glimpse into the subject, and most of what they learn is either inaccurate or unhealthy.   The best place for children to learn about their sexuality is at home, from those who care about their future relationships, as well as their moral fibre.   The best time to approach the subject is while they are still young and curious.   “The talk” doesn’t have to be graphic or uncomfortable, just honest...