Tough Times Build Strength

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From Dr James Dobson

The ideal environment for your child is not one devoid of problems and trials. Your child needs the minor setbacks and disappointments which come his way.

A tree which is planted in a rain forest is never forced to extend its roots downward in search of water. It can be toppled by even a moderate wind.

By contrast, a mesquite tree planted in a dry desert can only survive by sending its roots more than thirty feet deep into the earth, seeking cool water. But through this adaptation to arid land, it becomes strong against all assailants.

This illustration applies to our children as well. Those who have learned to conquer their problems are more secure than those who have never faced them.

Our task as parents then is not to eliminate every challenge for our children; rather it is to serve as a confident ally on their behalf, encouraging them when they're distressed, intervening when the threats are overwhelming, and above all, giving them the tools with which to overcome the obstacles.

From TODAY, Voices – Tuesday, 04-Aug-2009