Tuesday, February 10, 2009

LOVING WHOLEHEARTEDLY

FOCUS ON THE FAMILY

 

From TODAY, Voices

Thursday, 05-February-2009

 

By Dr James Dobson

 

The very best gift we can give our families is what has sometimes been called “wholehearted love”.

 

Two friends of mine, Gary Smalley and Dr. John Trent, have written a wonderful book called The Two Sides of Love. They point out that love has two parts: a hard side and a soft side – and most of us favour one or the other. People who lean to the hard side tend to be tough, firm, critical and confrontational when a wrong has been committed. They are good problem solvers, but they can be tough on people who deal with them. Those of us who lean toward the soft side are sympathetic, sensitive and forgiving. They care deeply about people, but they have a hard time confronting a problem.

 

Smalley and Trent make the important point that relationships need both sides of love. The best thing we can do for our spouse and children is recognise our tendencies and strive for balance. If we’re too far over into the hard side, we need to learn sensitivity and compassion. If the soft side comes easy to us, perhaps we should learn how to lovingly confront.

 

We should make the decision to love wholeheartedly. By understanding and modifying what we were born with, we can bond together better and increase our intimacy with one another.

 

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