Tuesday, December 09, 2008

MARITAL OVER-ANALYSIS

From TODAY, Voices

Thursday December 4, 2008

 

By Dr Bill Maier

 

It’s not unusual for a wife to want to talk about the state of her marriage.

 

“Are we close enough?”

 

“Is there something more we should be doing?”

 

Some women have a tendency to worry, even when things are going well. But men tend to think: “If it ain’t broke, why fix it?”

 

And this can cause a lot of friction — especially when women mistake their contentment for apathy.

 

Simply being aware of these differences can help. When a wife brings up a topic, it doesn’t mean that something is wrong.

 

She just needs to talk in order to be reassured. And when your husband pulls into a shell, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. It could just be his personality.

 

Before jumping to conclusions, try to recognise how your mate deals with conflict. A little understanding goes a long way toward diffusing marital strife. 

 

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