From TODAY, Voices
Tuesday September 9, 2008
By Dr Bill Maier
We all know that there would be no divorce in a perfect world. But we don’t live in a perfect world – I’m afraid.
Today, a lot of children are living in broken homes. There’s no easy way to help these kids overcome the pain of divorce, or help them navigate the problems involved in being shuttled between two households. But parents can do a lot to help ease the stress they feel.
The first step is to avoid putting down your former spouse in front of the kids. Using your child as a sounding board for your frustration is the worst kind of emotional abuse.
It’s also important that your children not feel responsible for the break-up. Make sure they know that they are loved deeply by both of parents, and that the divorce had nothing to do with them.
Finally, talk to them often to make sure they are coping well. And never take their feelings for granted.
Tuesday September 9, 2008
By Dr Bill Maier
We all know that there would be no divorce in a perfect world. But we don’t live in a perfect world – I’m afraid.
Today, a lot of children are living in broken homes. There’s no easy way to help these kids overcome the pain of divorce, or help them navigate the problems involved in being shuttled between two households. But parents can do a lot to help ease the stress they feel.
The first step is to avoid putting down your former spouse in front of the kids. Using your child as a sounding board for your frustration is the worst kind of emotional abuse.
It’s also important that your children not feel responsible for the break-up. Make sure they know that they are loved deeply by both of parents, and that the divorce had nothing to do with them.
Finally, talk to them often to make sure they are coping well. And never take their feelings for granted.
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