Tuesday, June 09, 2009

MYSTERY IN MARRIAGE

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By Dr James Dobson

If you want to put some new life in your marriage, try thinking like a teenager again. We all remember, fondly or otherwise, the craziness of our dating days – the coy attitudes, the flirting, the chase after the prize. But as we moved into marriage, most of us felt we should leave the game-playing behind. But we may not have changed as much as we'd like to think.

The truth is that our romantic relationships will always bear some characteristics of adolescent sexuality. Grown-ups still love the thrill of the chase, the lure of the unattainable, the excitement of the new and the boredom with the old. The immature impulses are controlled and minimised in a committed relationship, but they never fully disappear. And this is the key for keeping life in our marriages. If things seem stale between you and your spouse, maybe you should remember some old tricks, repeating some of the happy moments that brought you together.

Maybe it's time for a little mystery, a little flirtatiousness, a date where you revisit the old haunts when your love was new. If it all sounds a little immature to act like a teenager again, just keep this in mind: In the best marriages, the chase is never really over.

From TODAY, Voices – Tuesday, 09-Jun-2009


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