Saturday, May 23, 2009

Settling differences

By Dr Bill Maier

FocusOnTheFamily_LogoSmall The secret to a healthy marriage does not lie in how you avoid conflict, but in how you learn to resolve it.

In a relationship, avoiding conflict is not healthy. That’s called living in denial.

The key to building a strong bond with your spouse is to have a good system of conflict resolution.

Dr Neil Clark Warren has some great tips for keeping conflict in line.

You begin by seeing marriage as a partnership. Couples who view themselves as two individuals in a relationship are setting themselves up for trouble.

Marriage should be seen from a “we” view, instead of an “I” perspective. When clashes occur, they should be handled quickly and decisively. You deal with it, then get past it. Never see it as a personal matter, but a decision you need to work through before moving forward.

When resolving an argument, always have a give-and-take attitude. Remember that all partnerships demand a lot of compromise.

From TODAY, Voices – Friday, 22-May-2009

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