Monday, October 13, 2008

FREEDOM AND RESPECT


From TODAY, Voices
Friday October 10, 2008

By Dr James Dobson

Someone said if you love something greatly set it free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours for life. If it doesn’t come back, it never was yours in the first place.

When it comes to romance, some individuals become so highly motivated to find someone to love that they begin to violate well known principles of freedom and respect in human interactions. That’s like turning a fire hose on a flickering flame.

I heard of one young man who was determined to win the affection of a girl who refused to even see him. He decided that the way to her heart was through the mail, so he began writing her a love letter every day. When she didn’t respond, he wrote three notes every 24 hours. In all, he wrote her more than 700 letters and, as a result, she married the postman. That’s how the system works. Appearing too anxious and available drives some people away rather than attracting them into a relationship.

Romantic love is one of those rare endeavours that succeed best when it requires the least effort. Remember that respect precedes love, and relationships are constantly tested by cautious lovers who like to nibble at the bait before swallowing the hook.
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